Where there’s a kind heart in search of love, there’s an opportunity for romance scams.

These cases are surging, especially among older adults. In 2025, they took victims for $600 million. Seniors experience the highest financial losses, often losing tens of thousands or more.

They’re often targeted because they have more money to steal, and many are looking for love after losing a spouse, emptying their nest, or walking away from the companionship of the workforce. Let’s discuss how these scams might look, and how you can stay safe.

Senior Romance Scams: Sudden Connections, Urgent Requests

When Pamela, 67, started chatting with a kind, widowed engineer on social media, she thought she’d finally found companionship. “Ben” said he was working on an oil rig in the Norwegian Sea. His messages were warm, thoughtful, and emotionally engaging. He even talked about meeting in person. But soon, the tone changed – subtle hints of danger, urgent financial needs, and finally, a request for $3,000 to “cover his share” of a repair bill.

Pamela didn’t fall for it. But many do.

These scams follow familiar patterns: a sudden emotional connection, a too-good-to-be-true backstory, and then an emergency that only you can help solve. Scammers pose as military officers, overseas workers, and widows or widowers starting over. Their goal is to earn your trust, then exploit it.

To stay safe, experts recommend:

• Never send money to someone you haven’t met in person.
• Watch for rushed emotional connections. “I love you” shouldn’t come in week one.
• Insist on a video call. Is their camera broken? Connection bad? Excuses are a red flag.
• Talk to someone you trust. Scammers thrive in secrecy.
• Report suspicious messages at ReportFraud.ftc.gov or ic3.gov.

Romance scammers steal more than money. They exploit hope, connection, and trust. But if you’ve been targeted, you’re not to blame. These are professional criminals, not just opportunists.

By spreading awareness and talking openly about these scams, we can help protect ourselves and others. Share this article with someone you care about – you just might save them from heartbreak and financial loss. For more tips on staying safe from scams, follow The Seniors Center blog.